SikaStag wrote:[quote="rodp"
This is too much for my simple head, we need Bruce to translate

I was thinking along the same lines.
My Wife, came from a family that were all involved in the Church. Both her parents were Elders of the Kirk, her sister and bother in law ran the youth club. My Wife was Sunday School teacher.
From the age of 12, my Wife developed a curvature of her spine that worsened as she went through her teens. She was seeing a so called specialist that was seeing her up till she was 19 years old. At that point, he told my Wife that he knows very little about this condition, after 7 years of seeing him (The Bastard). She then seen a real specialist. Who said he can do nothing as she is too old. If he had seen her at age 12, he could have done surgery to correct the problem.
My Wife worked with this condition as a clerical officer in the local health centre. She was in extreme pain every day of her working life. 6 months before we were married, she was in a cast from her waist to her neck. She then wore a body moulded brace that went from her waist to the top of her chest. She was pensioned off work at 38 years old, through her medical condition. We have no family. I knew this when I married her. She could not carry a child full term. I loved her (still do) and wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
What really pisses me off, is the members of her family that come out with the same words every time they ask her how she is. It is normally the same answer she gives. I am in pain.
"Oh we will pray for you". They have been saying this for 30+ years. How long does it take for an individual to realise that there is no one out there that can hear those prayers. Nothing ever improves after prayers. After 20 years of marriage an listening to my rants re religion. My Wife is now of the same opinion as I.
She was also diagnosed with a Trigeminal Neuralgia. This is a facial pain that is called the suicide illness.
It is the equivalent of a migraine headache and toothache at the same time. This is someone that has attended church all of her life. Even whilst we were married she attended the churches where we have lived.
She said one day whilst she was in extreme pain, What did I do to deserve this torture. Was I Hitler in a past life and this is pay back.
It is not good to watch the person that you love being in constant pain, this is after all the medication that she takes on a daily basis. The box she has her meds in is a foot square.
She very rarely complains, opting to sleep through the worst days when the pain is unbearable.
Is there a God. If there is, he aint doing much to help those that have stood in his house over the years to worship him.
For the record. There was more chance of some of my relatives being on the roof of the church after dark, looking for lead.
Ian[/quote]
They do this to make themselves feel better, probably due to being incapable of administering any real help. They feel they have to do something but are helpless.
Perhaps they feel more than you think ?
Having said that, it doesn't do you or your wife any good does it.